Hi. I’m an INFJ… and I’m a mistress of the masquerade.
When Halloween comes around, I often feel the greatest costume for an INFJ is to go unmasked. Just for one night, to show the world who she really is. It will never happen of course. We rarely wander without our masks in place.
But why do INFJs wear masks? For protection? Subterfuge? Deception?
All the above really.
We often wear a blank mask when we meet new people. This is not a trait unique to INFJs – most people wear masks when meeting new people. This mask is protective in nature; we wear it to hide who we are from you until we know we can remove the mask…
… and put on the new mask. Now this is where the INFJ differs from the other types. Most other types, after deciding you are trustworthy, will throw away their blank mask and let you see their true self.
The INFJ, however, will now pluck a new mask from her myriad collection and wear that instead. If you’re an outgoing, jovial joker, the INFJ will don her jester’s mask and become a prankster right along with you. If you’re a quiet, shy, brooder, the INFJ will wear her sombre drama mask and be your Shakespearian companion.
So you ask, “when will the INFJ finally remove her mask?”
Well that depends on you. Only when you’re deemed trustworthy and welcomed into the inner circle will the INFJ remove all of her masks. Don’t fret if that doesn’t happen quickly (or at all); it’s a rare person that gets into the INFJs inner circle. The main reason for this is because the INFJ has become so adept at wearing masks, she can also see beneath them.
While you might have worn a friendly, smiling mask when you first met the INFJ, if your mask was hiding a dark heart, the INFJ will have seen through the mask. If your first mask was worn to hide a usurping, back-stabbing personality, the INFJ knows. However, if your mask hid a gentle soul in need of protection, be warned, the INFJ knows and she will make it her life’s mission to protect your soul.
So remember, when you first meet an INFJ, you get one chance to get under her mask, and regardless what Mardi Gras mask you have on when you first meet, she can see beneath to the real you.
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