Hi. I’m an INFJ… and I will fight to get away from conflict. Contradiction? Yes? Well tough. That’s what INFJ’s are. A walking contradiction.
Seriously though, there are fewer Myers Briggs Types that hate conflict as much as the INFJ. We love harmony and peace in all aspects of our lives, including within our own self… and therein often lies the problem, as INFJs are notoriously known for their incongruency in their perception of self. As such, we spend an awful lot of time in conflict due to our own idiosyncracies and incongruency. Consequently, a lot of INFJs you come across are depressed and/or suffer from anxiety.
But it’s also external conflict that turns an INFJs belly into jelly. We go out of our way to avoid external conflict; quitting jobs, slamming the door on toxic people or being the eternal peace-maker in order to avoid conflict. Why? Because conflict turns the gentle INFJ into something she’s not. Conflict draws out the beast; that side of the INFJ best left sleeping.
Thus between an eternal battle of inner conflict and trying to avoid or suppress external conflict, INFJs come to loath the C word. We will move heave and earth not to find ourselves in conflict. Just look at me and hubby (also an INFJ); in the 19 years of being a couple, there’s not been a single argument. We just can’t fight with each other.
So, should you be a fiery Type who enjoys combatting others… take note, leave the INFJ be… or be prepared for some seriously bad fall-out.
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