Hi, I’m an INFJ.
When I first meet you, I’ll give you my smile. My big smile. The one that comes from my heart.
Then, when you start sharing your deepest, intimate secrets with me, I’ll give you my attention. All my attention. I may even brush your arm or squeeze your hand.
It’s what INFJs do.
We also tend to look at noses and mouths instead of eyes. This, I’ve been told, is considered sensual behaviour. Again, I’m just being an INFJ. It’s not my intention to seduce. It’s not my intention to become your best friend. It’s never my intention to get so under your skin you weep when I say I’m leaving. Because that’s what happens. Always happens. And it tears my heart to pieces.
Because I’m an INFJ.
I’m sorry I’m intense.
I’m sorry you fell for my intensity.
I’m sorry I don’t feel the same for you.
I’m just being me.
I’m so sorry.
*If you’d like to know more about INFJs or the Myers Briggs Personality Types follow this link
Completely recognise this from the other side of a friendship. The intensity that makes the friendship feel so important and beautiful can also be addictive and as you say, heartbreakingly misleading for both parties.
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I know, and the worst part is that the INFJs are usually painfully aware it’s happening but powerless to stop it (because we hate conflict and hurting people) 😩
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Okay, you’ve got my attention. This sounds so damn interesting. I’m following the link. Thanks for giving my brain something new to discover. Such a gift.
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I’d love to know what your Type is if you find out!
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I cannot believe how accurate my test results were! It turns out that I’m a Campaigner. I value freedom, relationships, exploration. I’m a drifter mentally; I bounce from one idea to the next. An idealistic dreamer, multipotentialite. 7% of the pop. Thank you for guiding me to the site Jess!
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No worries! And if you look on Pinterest about your type you’ll find so many ideas, quotes and phrases that simply resonate with you!
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Thanks again. You’re just a cute bundle of helpfulness 🙂
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Nawwww! Thanks 😊
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Good old Myers-Briggs!
Sure beats Voight-Kampff 😉
INTP-T here, for better or for worse.
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Ah, what I would be without the guilt and gushy goo-feelings. 😏
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Recently I came across a book that might interest you:
The INFJ Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World’s Rarest Type
by Lauren Sapala (Author)
I haven’t read it yet, but with topics like “Every healing begins in crisis,”
and “You’re not weird, you’re gifted,” I have high hopes.
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Got it. Some good stuff in there but a lot of self-help faith touchy feey stuff that I don’t go in for too. I just took the good stuff and think about that though!
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